Upcoming Events
Dyke March - Fist and Resist!
Calling all dykes! It's time for another play party at Sanctuary, Dyke March: Fist and Resist!
Let’s come together to rage and resist – one fist at a time! Get your tits out and your docs on, charge up your vibrators, and pocket your poppers. The Gay Barn is keeping things wild in the spirit of all the dykes and homos who came before us, in their own shitty times and circumstances. Our debauchery is our freedom! No TERFS!
We’re talking old school dyke looks: leather daddies, femme dagger fits, strap ons, no shirt no problem, chains and carabiners, lingerie, plaid, muscle tees, boots, high heels – whatever makes you feel gay and hot af. This is a play party for dykes and the queers who love them! See the Sanctuary event page for party rules.
The Gay Barn will be providing nitrile gloves and lube, light snacks, sexy tunes, and our trusty St. Andrew’s Cross. Bring your own toys!
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Sunday 3/30, 8pm - close
Sanctuary, 33 NW 9th
$15 cash/$17 cc cover all night
Dirty Dyke!
Dust off your muscles, it's time for another Dirty Dyke at The High Water Mark!
Come get rowdy with The Gay Barn at our down and dirty dykey arm wrestling and cruising party! Wrassle your crush, your friends, your nemesis, to get the glory and win a silly prize.
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​And since this is The Gay Barn, y'all better come ready to cruise! Get out your bandanas for some old school hanky code flagging and cruise with confidence. If you don't know what the hanky code is, read more here, or here and see our very own version below. We will have hankies (and t-shirts!) for sale at the door.
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It's time to get rowdy, get dirty, get wrasslin', and have some classic dyke fun! Arrive by 9:45 to sign up for wrestling.
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Oh and please note - The Gay Barn events are ALWAYS trans-inclusive, and transphobia is not tolerated. If you hear, see or experience something and need assistance intervening, ask Emma, Billy or the door person (or each other!) for help.
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Friday April 11th, 9pm-12:30am
The High Water Mark
6800 NE MLK Jr Blvd
$10 cash at the door
Discount for masking and hanky code flagging
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Schedule runs on gay time!
9pm: Doors open, signups start!
9:45pm: Signups end!
10ish: First round!
11ish: Second round!
11:30ish: FINAL ROUND! *Winner will receive a mystery prize!
After final round till 12:30am: Table open for friendly challenges! Wrassle your friends or crush just for fun after the tournament ends.
The Gay Barn's Own Hanky Code
Side note: Yes, we know that some of the colors above are not historically accurate! We have our reasons and are not interested in arguing about whether that rewrites history or not (it doesn't, we aren't that powerful). Flag traditional colors if you prefer! We mostly just want Portland folks to have an ice breaker that will get them talking and connecting (not just nonverbal cruising!). Ty!
Dirty Dyke on the Mic!
A Karaoke and Drag Show Fundraiser for Matilda
Come down to Kelly's Olympian for Dirty Dyke on the Mic - A Karaoke and Drag Show Fundraiser for Matilda -- because we take care of us!
Matilda Blu has been a part of Dirty Dyke since it started, bringing kindness and femme ferocity to the stage and beyond. When they suffered a serious injury during arm wrestling, friends and community members immediately stepped in to help (especially Commie Medic!).
Now let's continue to help Matilda as they heal.​ Join us on April 17th for a fundraising night of karaoke and drag performances, plus a silent auction. Stay tuned for more details! Please contact us if you'd like to donate to the silent auction.
A minimum donation of $5 will get you in the door, and $2 or more per song will get you up on stage. All proceeds will go directly to Matilda Blu. Donate to their Gofundme here.
Let's all show up for Matilda!
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Thursday 4/17, 8pm-12am
Kelly's Olympian, 426 SW Washington
$5+ cash at the door
Masking encouraged
Homos Take the Lake!
We're heading back to Slag Cabin for our third annual springtime lakeside play party - Homos Take the Lake!
You will play, chill, and bond with other kinky dykes and queers over three magical nights. With a private dock for sunning and lake jumps, fire pit, plenty of private outdoor space and indoor play areas, plus an outdoor hot tub - Slag Cabin is the perfect spot for 30(ish) homos to get freaky and let loose.
The Gay Barn will bring the dungeon atmosphere for nighttime play parties, all the good food, and some fun and sexy daytime activities. Join us for a HOLEsome good time!
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Fri. May 2nd - Mon. May 5th
2 hours north of Pdx
Sliding scale ticket options
BIPOC discount available
HTL is currently sold out, and accepting people on a waitlist.
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Vetting is required! Click below for full event details and the vetting form.
Always more coming soon!
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About
The Gay Barn
The Gay Barn is not a place, it is an experience.
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The Gay Barn produces events and play parties for kinky homos, with an emphasis on creating dyke spaces. (*We are an events production company, not a venue!)
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Twice a year (or so), Billy and Emma host vetted, private retreat-style play parties for kinky queers, in various beautiful locations across the PNW. We create spaces for dykes and gender expansive homos to get together and get freaky (*no cis men, TERFs, SWERFs, or zesty straights). ​Each retreat play party is a unique combination of the physical environment and the amazing people who attend. But you can always count on hot homos, fun activities, sexy play, beautiful views, delicious homemade meals, and excellent vibes!
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​The Gay Barn also produces monthly, quarterly or sporadic events in Portland that never disappoint. Whether it's arm wrestling, a pop-up strip club, or play party, we bring The Gay Barn vibes to local venues! Join our mailing list to stay updated on all our latest events.
The Gay Barn is committed to anti-racism, trans inclusion, body positivity, and accessibility to our events.
About the organizers
The Gay Barn began in 2022 with two slutty, married dykes longing for an orgy that was more than just an opportunity for kink.
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We wanted to have an experience that cultivated a sense of joy, playfulness, and authenticity – with all the vibes on point. We leaned into it and started bringing people together for some truly legendary parties.
Billy is a butch dyke with many years' experience working in events production and sound engineering. Emma is a femme lesbian who works as business bitch, stripper, and pro domme - plus as a psychic medium and professional witch. They are both white, cis, and in their late 30's/early 40's. They met in Portland, Oregon in 2011.
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